Single is a Choice Not a Sentence

       50 percent of the emails I get are relative to relationship status, i.e. your so kind and beautiful, why are you single? The answer is simple, being single is a choice and not a sentence; relationships are always an option, so I choose to better myself and seek more understand before entering one. I notice many people complaining about being single as though it is an aliment; so I ask if you can't live alone with yourself, why would you ask anyone else too?

     As I grow older I ask myself, why do people dislike being single; why do they long for company with whom they can lay their head? Some would argue the mammalian part of our brain, urges us to mate and cultivate families, but that is only in cases where everyone knows their role. If you do not know your place or cannot be a contributing member to a relationship, should you enter one?
      The role of the husband is to protect and provide for his wife and family, in turn the wife is to be a help-meet for her husband, attending to the affairs of the home and family. If you don't have the skills to be that supportive wife and home maker, should you look to be in a relationship? I would caution those that don't have all the necessary tools of discipline, understanding, empathy, compassion, honesty and trust; to not waste your time and give away your peace for a temporary pleasure.
      You can learn those skills through interactions with your own family, as you journey in the world someone will meet you and fall in love with those qualities, not just your looks. This person will possess many of these same qualities in which they found in you, so attractive. There will be no need to apologize for there will always be understanding, no need to fight because there will always be communication. Relationships take work but marriage is easy if you truly love someone and they love you just as passionately.
     You will be so concerned with their well being and they with yours, that neither will lack anything; nothing will be a sacrifice for the one you love, it will serve as another opportunity to make them smile, and meet a need. Choosing to be single is choosing to wait for the one who ignites those desires, if you continue to do it for every man; you will eventually get tired and be worn-out.