A good friend of mine emailed me last night, she was like "awkward situation, I am hanging with this guy and we have had sex and he knows I like him. Well we are hanging out and his baby mom-ma is here; is that even cool, can I be upset?" I asked her if they had an understanding, she said no, so I replied No you cam't be mad. This got me thinking about the number of situations females find themselves in today, involving the baby mother and some understanding on how to handle it.
First understand, she is the mother of his kids, she is owed respect, regardless of what you may hear or how you feel. This is important to remember because you want a man who puts his family first; if he is neglecting his family to be with you, he will neglect your family to be with another. The mother of his kids needs to respect you as well because you are the person whom he is with and will add on to his family with. You and her must have a mutual respect and understanding because your children share the same father; it does you no good to have a division in the family.
Second, if he still in love with her, don't start a family with him; this will only hurt you. How many have fallen victim to the first baby mother because he was still in love with her; the only reason it didn't work out was because they were too young and only after growing apart did they fall more in love. Females do not concern yourself with being the Next, you want to be the Last; You want to be the one he calls wife and not baby mother.
Third, if you'll haven't come to an understanding or had a conversation about whether or not you are in a relationship. Don't say anything, you are his home girl kick'in it at that point and no ways should be felt. This goes for males too, when they find themselves dealing with the baby daddy.
At some point in time, you will find yourself in one of these positions and if you do handle the situation with maturity and class.
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